Not only did all my previously held notions turn out to be totally wrong, but it seemed the opposite was true; compared to the endless number of good-looking, well-muscled, and much better dressed Swedish guys, it seemed no woman was interested in a pale, skinny American with absolutely zero fashion sense and a shaggy haircut. In one swift blow, my self-esteem returned to its liquidous state. The two of us had something in common right away: both of us studied journalism.
Eventually, however, I drummed up enough courage to ask a girl from one of my classes for a fika in Teleborgs Slott. A few weeks later, it evaporated entirely when, after getting the phone number of a girl I had warmed up to, she rejected me by flat-out saying I wasn’t her “type.” Looking back on it, I probably asked her out for the wrong reasons anyway, but if I had known what I know now I could’ve gotten a lot more sleep. She seemed to spend every moment picking my brains on life in the U. We had similar tastes in music and movies, and even shared a secret passion for documentaties. By the time I finally excused myself and went home, it was past 4 a.m.
T – Text messaging is the best way to communicate with Swedish men.We talked, laughed, and I somehow managed to pay for her – something many Swedish women, I knew, were not used to. I asked her to dinner, assuming the answer would be an automatic “yes.” Instead, I received a text message explaining that dinner would feel “too much like a date.” In all my 21 years, I had never been so confused. A few weeks after her – whom my friends only refer to as “Miss A” – there was yet another girl. We hung out every day for about a week, and finally one night she spontaneously invited me over for dinner. She had poured her heart out to me, displayed the entire spectrum of human emotion, told me things she said she had never told anyone else – or so I thought.We hung out a few more times and, in my mind, there was no way I could fail. Unlike the others, she took the initiative of “first contact” by talking to me after a class we shared. We ate a nice meal of chicken and rice, and then we talked for a bit. A couple weeks later, she told me she was seeing someone.It is so awesome and wonderful to see people share their stories and help each other. R – Rude; if you don’t know the ways of Swedes, they can be perceived as rude.This post is being closed now because it has more than 200 comments!!! This is especially true if you believe the man should pay for dates, etc when he is more in dutch / equal paying.