When we have a crush on someone, it can be hard to see them for who they really are, especially if that person is a player. They’re a little manipulative and they know how to get a girl to fall hard. If he's all about hooking up, that could definitely mean that he's just using you for sex or a steamy makeout sesh. The next time he asks if you want to hang out, say, "how about we go see a movie/grab something to eat?
" If his response is something like, "I'd rather just hang with you at my place :)" or there's no response at all, that shows that he just wants to hook up.
If you are important enough to him, he should be able to spend some time with you on the weekends. If he spends too much time with his male friends and you are never invited along, chances are he may be a player.
Now of course he doesn’t need to hand is phone over to you, but if he guards it like it has top-level security secrets on it, there is something up. Social media is part of our lives now, unfortunately. You could all be dating him and all be his friend, couldn’t you? If you have dated for a reasonable time and have not met any of his family members, friends, or even co-workers, you could be dating a player. Why isn’t he introducing you to important people in his life? So, if the guy you are dating breaks promises left and right, he might be a player. Did he either offer no explanation when he popped back into your life or have a lame excuse? When dating a player it is better to be forewarned and prepared so you can play your hand and leave this player behind. Written permission is required from the author to post on your site or be used in any way, shape, or form.Susan Walsh writes the blog Hooking Up Smart, which I came across when she mentioned one of my columns in a post of hers. As Susan points out, players will often send a lot of basically meaningless "sweet" texts, along the lines of, "How was your day? Whatever you do, if you agree to a last-minute plan, also agree to go home with him! While we're on the topic of cellular communication, I will add: 3. It's different from the feeling of excitement and enthusiasm two people will feel when there's mutual attraction mutual respect. Players will not respond well if you voice hesitations about having sex.In it, she made a number of smart points about players — and I'm summarizing the good stuff for you here. " and "Hey, just thought I'd say I'm thinking about you" and "Sleep tight." While this kind of thing is fine once you've established true intimacy with someone, if a dude is pulling this kind of BS before you've had four or five dates , chances are pretty good he's full of shit. Players text a ton one day — and then days and days go by with nothing. They will try to talk you into it instead of being cool with your desire to wait.Certainly, I think chances are very high that any guy who is being overly persistent about sex is most likely a douchebag, no matter how incredibly into you he seems — and I speak from unhappy experience. As for the stuff about texting: If he's doing any — or all three of those things — and you're not sure where you stand with him, or something seems not quite right, I'd be on guard.