Today, on the little slice of the Twilight zone that is the 2012 election, there is a story on the interwebz saying that Paul Ryan dated a black woman in college, and how this earth-shattering revelation would effect the election. Ryan's policies still hurt poor African-Americans the most, and also poor white people and any poor people. I know, interracial relationships shouldn't be a big deal now, and my story is in no way unique or uncommon.It's trending #1 on Yahoo, is the first Auto-complete for "Paul Ry-" on Google, and Twitter is abuzz. Ryan still supports the same anti-woman policies as Todd Akin. But there is still a lot of hostility towards interracial couples. But later, my mom saw a picture of me with a different girl I was friends with who happened to be black, and it really hurt when my mom said "That's not your girlfriend, is it?This was problematic, because I am your standard-issue white girl of European descent.Which does not mean that my Caucasian parents were any more accepting of whom their children loved.However, far too many Americans who dare to love someone of a different racial or cultural background find they will still have to face something unpleasant – ranging from disappointment to being disowned – from those people they loved first, their mothers and fathers.This includes even a father from a cosmopolitan American city, with a postgraduate degree, who loves and respects someone of a different race at work and might even invite someone of a varying skin tone or eye shape to Thanksgiving dinner but privately will tell his 10-, 20- or even 40-year-old son, “but you can’t marry one of them.” Which is just what my husband’s father told him when he explained his intentions with me.
The landmark case that helped to change laws across the country involved Mildred Delores Loving, a woman of African-American and Native American descent who was in a relationship with Richard Perry Loving, a White man. Supreme Court declared the charges against the couple unconstitutional in the landmark Loving v. Love is the last area where even educated and progressive parents can still openly teach prejudice at home – which is the only reason interracial marriage is still scandalous.Few peers of any recent generation give much thought to friends dating outside of their race.Perhaps it’s because black women dating white men has been promoted as panacea for all the alleged problems black women face when it comes to dating.In 2009, the dating website Ok Cupid released data suggesting that black women get the fewest responses, even from black men.