If your teen can understand their own needs and emotions, learn to speak up for themselves, and act to ensure their needs are met, he or she will have more of a sense of control over their circumstances, and gain self-confidence in their ability to make good decisions for themselves.Here’s an easy way to help your teenager develop this skill: When she needs to interact with an adult—a teacher, health-care provider, etc.—let her take the lead.When my daughter with Asperger’s was a junior in high school, she came home from school one day and said, “Um, something happened today and I am upset about it.” She said a boy came up to her in chess club and started asking her questions and talking to her.She thought he was being invasive and said, “I felt like he was setting me up for something.” Well, it turned out he was. She had no idea what asking for a date would look like, and when it actually happened to her, she thought he was picking on her. Other than being in the same after-school club with him, she knew nothing about him.Campus Confidential: 100 Startling Things You Don’t Know about Canadian Universities, 2nd Edition.Ken Coates & Bill Morrison, .95 In a country where a high percentage of the population goes to university, but only a small percentage actually finds employment in their chosen field, understanding what’s going on in our postsecondary institutions is more important than ever.Like laundry, how to shop for groceries and, yes, how to make sure a bank account isn’t overdrawn. Before teens launch from home, they should learn to start being their own advocates.
He said he also found, by not overplanning their lives and pulling back a bit to teach them responsibility, "I'm teaching them responsibility and initiative by letting them run."Basic kindness, hygiene, financial management, "those simple self-management skills, those are keys to independence," says Richard Greenberg, who wrote "Raising Children That Other People Like To Be Around: Five Common-Sense Musts From a Father's Point of View" (New Generation Publishing)."Before your kid goes to college, create a budget," says Greenberg, and teach them how debit cards work, what a bank balance and interest are, as well as how that can impact their budget. Wider is not keen on credit cards."The credit card is a perfect example of giving our kids a crutch rather than teaching them to fly on their own, which really is our job as parents — to foster a sense of independence," says Wider.Social skills are needed for anything from taking turns, to not interrupting conversations, to not telling “too much” truth (telling an overweight person that they arefat, for example), to conversational skills, to making and keeping friends.Kids with ASD don’t learn intrinsically or pick up on social cues, verbal or nonverbal, like typical peers do, so they must be taught.), but if you don’t break that habit before too long, your 20-year-old, 200-pound son will still expect and demand to get in the grocery cart, even when he can’t fit in it.And if you think you get stares when your 6-year-old is in the cart, just wait.