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Some things cannot be changed. You have to learn to accept that. No matter how much you get angry or try hard - it is not in your power to influence everything. But only a few can accept that. Can you accept what you cannot change? If not, we'll show you why acceptance is important. In addition, we provide 8 tips with which you can learn to accept ...

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Learning to accept means to accept some fixed aspects in life and to come to terms with the fact that these are just the way they are. At the same time, you have to admit that there is nothing you can do about it. That sounds obvious, but it is not in everyday life.

Frustration and anger about situations that cannot be influenced are commonplace. Starting with small things like the traffic jam on the highway to the big injustices in life. However, acceptance is very important and has several advantages:

  • You will be happier
    Accepting what cannot be changed makes you happier and happier. Frustration, despair and helplessness stay away. The focus is on things that are in your own hands.
  • You don't waste time and energy
    Fighting windmills takes a huge amount of time and energy. Pure waste, as you can't do anything anyway. Those who accept save their strength.
  • You can achieve more
    The reserves gained in this way can be used in other projects where you can achieve something. You will have greater success here through more commitment.
  • You keep evolving
    External circumstances cannot always be influenced - but how you deal with them and your personal attitude can. Greater acceptance stimulates individual development.

Why is acceptance so difficult?

Accepting the unchangeable is like losing control of your own life. It is the admission of not being able to determine everything yourself, which makes acceptance difficult. You have to understand your own limits and be aware that your freedom of action is limited.

In addition, many feel that they are giving up when they learn to accept. They perceive it as a personal failure, which leads to great self-doubt and declining self-esteem.

8 things you have to accept

  • death
    Many just ignore death, not accept it. But it inevitably belongs to life. Not only your own death, but also the limited time spent by family and friends is a difficult but important realization.
  • illness
    Likewise, you have to learn to accept illness. Physical complaints increase particularly in old age and can have a major impact on the quality of life. Despite modern medicine, not everything can be cured, no matter how much you struggle with it and wish for perfect health.
  • past
    In short, what has happened has happened. There is nothing you can do about the past, so you have to accept it.
  • error
    No matter how well you plan, consider and organize, mistakes cannot be ruled out. Excessive perfectionism makes acceptance difficult, mistakes are human.
  • individuality
    Everyone is different, has different views, preferences, interests, opinions, expectations and goals. You may not always like that, if these differ from your own, you still have to accept it.
  • lying
    Even if you are always honest, you will still face lies. People lie in order to manipulate and gain an advantage - or because they themselves think it would be true. One thing is clear: you are not only concerned with the truth.
  • injustice
    In short: the world is not fair. Sometimes the worst things happen to the best people, but evil goes unpunished on the other hand. In individual cases you can stand up for justice, but seen as a whole you have to learn to accept injustice.
  • uncertainty
    Nobody knows exactly what the future will look like. This uncertainty can lead to worries and fears, but there is nothing you can do about that anyway. Learn to accept the unknown, let it come to you, and then react to it.

Learning to accept: 8 tips

Do you want to learn to accept, but have difficulty accepting things? Then we have put together 8 tips that can help you with this:

  • Identify what you want to accept
    First step towards greater acceptance: Find out what you cannot accept so far. The above topics are already a first orientation. You can identify further personal areas through self-reflection. Ask yourself: What is it that I cannot or can hardly accept? This is how you identify areas that you need to work on.
  • Practice serenity
    Be calm if there is something you can't change anyway. Excitement, anger and effort are in vain and do not get you any further. Practice in everyday situations to stay relaxed even with big things. More serenity will help you learn to accept.
  • Say things out loud
    It may seem strange to you, but you should say something out loud so that you can accept it better. “I can't help it happened. But I can deal with it and accept that it is so. ”This will force yourself to a realistic and honest discussion and it will be easier to come to terms with something.
  • Allow yourself to lose control
    Many people suffer from a real control mania. Acceptance then becomes almost impossible. Change your mindset: you have to understand that you cannot influence everything - and allow yourself to give things up.
  • Develop gratitude
    Of course, it is difficult to accept the bad in life. It becomes easier with the necessary gratitude. Visualize all that is good, regularly remind yourself of what you are happy about. Those who are grateful can also accept the bad side of life.
  • Live in the here and now
    You can no longer change the past and worries about the future will bring you no further. So concentrate on the here and now.
  • Boost your self-confidence
    Knowledge arises from a high level of self-confidence: even if I can't change it, I will come to terms with it and make the best of it. You can overcome the feeling of helplessness and not simply feel exposed to the circumstances. You have to accept it, but you control how you deal with it.
  • Focus on what you can influence
    Do not ponder around the clock why some things are the way they are. Instead of thinking about it endlessly, focus on the many areas in which you can actually make a difference.

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March 4, 2021Author: Nils Warkentin

Nils Warkentin studied business administration at the Justus Liebig University in Giessen. On the career bible, he is devoted to topics related to studies, career entry and everyday office life.

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